Bringing Family Together

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As we head into the holiday season, we tend to spend more time with family and friends. Some of these relationships are simple, while others can be more complicated. At DP Air, it is important to us that we are always improving our relationships with customers, clients, coworkers, friends, and family.

If you are looking to improve any relationship, learn how emotional intelligence is the most effective tool for overcoming rifts and strengthening bonds. Active awareness and empathy – the ability to be aware, accepting, and permanently attuned to ourselves and others – tell us how to respond to one another’s needs.


Below are 10 tips for enhancing relationships and avoiding conflict –

  1. Take care of your health if you hope to take care of anyone else. The more demanding of your time your family is, the more you need to fit in exercise opportunities. Perhaps you and your family can seek out ways to exercise together.
  1. Listen if you expect to be heard. Lack of communication is the loudest complaint in most families. The answer to “Why won’t they listen to me?” may be simply “You’re not listening to them.”
  1. Teach emotional choice. Manage your moods by letting all feelings be OK, but not all behaviors. Model behavior that respects and encourages the feelings and rights of others yet makes it clear that we have a choice about what to do with what we feel.
  1. Teach generosity by receiving as well as giving. Giving and receiving are parts of the same loving continuum. If we don’t give, we find it hard to receive, and if we can’t receive, we don’t really have much to give. This is why selflessness carried to extremes is of little benefit to others.
  1. Take responsibility for what you communicate silently. The very young and old are especially sensitive to nonverbal cues. More than our words, tone of voice, posture (body language), and facial expressions convey our feelings. We have to listen to our tone of voice and look at ourselves in pictures and in the mirror to assess our emotional congruency. Loving words coming through clenched teeth don’t feel loving—they feel confusing.
  1. Don’t try to solve problems for your loved ones. Caring for your family doesn’t mean taking charge of their problems, giving unsolicited advice, or protecting them from their own emotions. Let them know their own strengths and allow them to ask you for what they need.
  1. Make a lasting impression through actions. Your values will be communicated by your actions, no matter what you say. Be an example, not a nag.
  1. Acknowledge your errors to everyone, including younger family members. Saying sorry when you hurt someone you love models humility and emotional integrity. You can demonstrate that no one is perfect, but everyone can learn at any age. Apologizing proves you can forgive yourself and makes it easier to forgive others.
  1. Discover what each person’s unique needs are. You can’t assume that your grandmother needs the same signs of love as your three-year-old or that either one will have the same needs next year. When in doubt, ask!
  1. Be generous in expressing love. Everyone in a family (especially young children) needs the emotional reassurance of loving words, gestures, and looks. Those who demand the least emotional attention may need it most.

These tips are helpful during the holidays when we gather, but they are also useful throughout the year! At DP Air, we put people and relationships first! Happy Holidays to all.

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